When I read this question, the people pleasing part of me immediately feels the pain of being condemned for her way of relating. So, I would like to begin this article by assuring you that I too have struggled in life to put my needs first in relationships. One of the most important parts of my healing has been finding compassion and love for this part of myself, who is so often judged and criticised by our culture, as well as by our own internal thoughts and feelings. So, if